Radiators and Drains

The transfer of energy between people can be MASSIVE.

Some people just have that aura, right?

Some people naturally have a great energy.

Some people can elevate your mood and are great to be around and you just don’t know why.

However, unfortunately this also works the other way

When I was speaking to one of my new favourite people last week we were speaking about radiators and drains. She explained her idea and it makes perfect sense.

She told me that some people are radiators and give off lots of energy and are fun and positive to be around and others are drains and ...well, you can guess the rest.

This is not a new concept to me. I have always been interested in the transfer of energy. My job depends on it. To increase a persons (or a groups) energy level immediately is of massive importance to me to firstly having a good time in life, secondly having a good time in life (yes - I said it twice!) and thirdly getting the best out of people.

You see, if you are the type of person that radiates energy people will follow your lead. They will subconsciously mimic or model your behaviour and as such you will get the best out of them. Furthermore, your life will be better and more fulfilling too.

Now, there are certain conditions to this that stop you becoming a knobhead (technical term). You cannot just pitch up to people and be a happy clappy wanker (another technical term) they will think you are weird and you will be avoided because your consistently positive and upbeat outlook on life is tiring (we are British after all...)

You must read the situation. It’s no good being overly positive at a funeral. This is not the right time. (I laugh my ass off writing this!!) However, you do not need to be a drain. The old-adage of if you’ve got nothing good to say don’t say anything is relevant here.

Being consistent is important. So much of communication is non-verbal. You body language will communicate your ideas before you say it. Smile, hold a confident posture, be open with you arms... These are all things that work well. BUT you have to mean what you say. People can smell a lack of integrity a mile off. You have genuinely want to be positive.

Read the situation. Like I said it’s no good being a happy clappy wanker. Those guys are annoying. I measure a persons body language on a scale of one to ten and if I want to increase their energy I arrive at one or two points above them. Like I said they will begin to mimic or model your behaviour and soon enough will be unknowingly having a good time and radiating energy themselves (mwahahahahhahahaha... They are falling for our plan!)

This all sounds very manipulative. It isn’t. Well, I suppose it is. But it is dependent again on integrity. You have to be genuine in your interest. Getting the best out of people day-to-day will only make your life better, more fun and fulfilling. Also, it’s something interesting to do.

Challenge for the day... If you see a friend without a smile; give them one of yours.

If you want to do something cool today. Try smiling at people (not just friends). It is the best way to see how people mimic or model behaviour. The proverb above will open many doors and will generally increase your energy and the energy of people around you. Plus it’ll be a fun experiment.

Note: Make your smile appropriate. I don’t want you guys getting arrested!

Have a great day!